The Best Holiday Weekend
Only YOU can help make this the best July 4th Weekend ever for those who visit your facility!
Some thoughts by Mike Robbins that are worth sharing on how to create a wonderful Independence Day Weekend:
1) Give people the benefit of the doubt. Most of the time, people have good intentions. Many of us have been trained to be cautious and suspicious of others, However, we almost always get what we expect from people, so the more often we give people the benefit of the doubt, the more often they will prove us "right," and the less often we will waste our precious time and energy on being cynical, suspicious and judgmental.
2) Don't take things personally. One of my favorite sayings is, "You wouldn't worry about what other people think about you so much if you realized how little they actually did." The truth is that most people are focused on themselves much more than on us. When we stop taking things so personally, we liberate ourselves from needless worry, defensiveness and conflict.
3) Look for the good. Another way to say what I mentioned above about getting what we expect from other people, is that we almost always find what we look for. As Werner Erhard said, "In every human being there is both garbage and gold, it's up to us to choose what we pay attention to." Looking for the good in others (as well as in life and in ourselves) is one of the best ways to find things to appreciate and be grateful for, and we remember that not everything is about us all the time.
4) Seek first to understand. Often when we're frustrated, annoyed or in a conflict with another person (or group of people), we don't feel seen, heard or understood. One of the best things we can do is to shift our attention from trying to get other people to understand us and seek to understand the other person (or people) involved in an authentic way. Being curious, understanding and even empathetic of another person and their perspective or feelings doesn't mean being in agreement with them, it simply allows us to get into their world and see where they're coming from -- which is essential to letting go of judgment, connecting with them and ultimately resolving the conflict.
5) Be gentle with others (and especially with yourself). Being gentle is the opposite of being critical. When we're gentle we're compassionate, kind and loving. We may not like, agree with or totally understand what someone has done (or why), but we can be gentle in how we approach it, talk about it and engage with them. Being gentle isn't about condoning or appeasing anyone or anything, it's about having a true sense of empathy and perspective. And, the most important place for us to bring a sense of gentleness is to ourselves. Many of us have a tendency to be super judgmental of ourselves. Sadly, some of the harshest criticism we dole out in life is aimed right at us. Another great saying I love is, "We don't see people as they are, we see them as we are." As we alter how we relate to ourselves, how we relate to everyone else and to the world around us is altered in a fundamental way.
As the Dalai Lama so brilliantly says, "If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion." Everyone around us is doing the best they can, given the resources they have. When we remember this and act with true compassion , we're able to tap into a deeper level of peace, appreciation and fulfillment.